# Embrace Your Strengths: Moving Beyond the “Lean In” Approach
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Chapter 1: The Pitfalls of Leaning Into Weaknesses
During my career, I once had a manager who advised me to “embrace your weaknesses.” This approach turned out to be a disaster.
While I excel in radio presenting, team management, and interpersonal skills, my shortcomings are numerous. For instance, writing has never been my forte; I used to need to listen to everything I composed, but now I find joy in that process—perhaps due to my preference for auditory learning!
When coaches and mentors suggest that we should lean into our weaknesses, I’ve reached a point where I find this advice unhelpful. A former boss of mine once expressed skepticism about my fit for a music-focused role, saying, “Why pretend Phil is a hot music jock? He isn’t…” His observation highlighted the futility of trying to force someone into a role that doesn't suit them.
So, what does this mean for you?
Let’s shift our focus to leveraging your strengths, as that's where the real impact lies.
Section 1.1: Celebrating Your Skills
Imagine stepping into a managerial role and feeling like you're wearing shoes that are far too large. Remember, you were hired for a reason—you have valuable skills, and it’s time to showcase them.
Are you adept at analyzing data? Perfect! Take charge during budget discussions and demonstrate your expertise. Perhaps you're the office's charismatic communicator, able to win over even the most difficult clients. Use your strengths to foster relationships and motivate your team.
The key takeaway here is to stop attempting to be a jack-of-all-trades.
Subsection 1.1.1: The Importance of Powerful Questions
In my previous role, my boss would frequently ask, “How are you?” While well-intentioned, it became tiresome and unnecessary.
Certainly, it’s important to acquire new skills, and feeling slightly uncomfortable when doing so is natural. However, it’s perfectly acceptable to delegate tasks that induce anxiety or disinterest. Acknowledging your limitations is a hallmark of effective leadership.
Throughout my radio career, I concentrated on my strengths: mentoring and supporting talented individuals.
Section 1.2: Confidence Through Mastery
By focusing on what you do best, you'll not only feel more self-assured but also motivate your team. They will recognize a leader who is knowledgeable and willing to let others shine in their respective talents.
As for that nagging imposter syndrome? It will begin to dissipate as you realize you belong exactly where you are, excelling in your areas of strength.
Chapter 2: Moving Forward with Confidence
So, let’s move away from the mentality of “leaning into” everything. It’s an approach that can be counterproductive.
You’ve got this!
I’ve authored The Imposter Syndrome on Audible, and I have a passion for coaching, local radio, and my cat, Walter.
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