Chapter 1: Understanding the Autistic Dilemma

The question "Who will you be today?" might seem trivial to some, but for many autistic individuals, it represents a complex challenge faced daily. Unlike neurotypical individuals, who generally enjoy the freedom to express their true selves, autistic people often grapple with the decision of whether to present their authentic selves or to mask their identity.

When we choose to be authentic, we can relax and respond to situations naturally, expressing our thoughts openly. However, this choice often leads to difficulties because society frequently expects us to adhere to unwritten social norms that don't align with our true selves. Autistic individuals might express boredom instead of feigning interest in mundane conversations, or they might advocate for justice, regardless of the potential backlash.

This behavior can lead to negative experiences, as we've often been told to "be ourselves" only to face repercussions for doing so. In many cases, the encouragement to be authentic is conditional, with the underlying expectation being that we conform to a version of ourselves that is deemed acceptable by others, particularly if we are perceived as different.

Section 1.1: The Exhaustion of Masking

For many, the alternative is to mask—essentially pretending to be neurotypical. This often involves mimicking others and making conscious decisions about social interactions that neurotypical individuals perform instinctively. The process of masking can be incredibly draining, akin to navigating an unfamiliar culture without grasping the language or customs.

Even simple tasks, like ordering food or shopping, can become anxiety-inducing, leading to the need for guides specifically designed for neurodivergent individuals. Imagine trying to make choices as if you were a visitor from another planet, where everything feels foreign and no assumption can be made about understanding social cues.

Subsection 1.1.1: The Choice Between Authenticity and Acceptance

This leads to the critical question: would you choose to be your true self, knowing it might not be welcomed, or would you opt to perform a role daily, risking your mental well-being? It’s a painful decision that many autistic individuals face.

What changes need to occur to alleviate this dilemma?

Chapter 2: The Path Toward Acceptance

Fundamental acceptance of autistic individuals as they genuinely are is crucial. Society must recognize that neurodiversity is not a deficiency but rather a variation of human experience. Embracing the idea that there are multiple ways to navigate life is essential.

When autistic individuals can express their true selves without fear of negative consequences, they can thrive and contribute significantly to society. It's vital to understand that merely raising autism awareness is insufficient; substantial changes in social spaces, practices, and assumptions are necessary for genuine inclusivity.

A basic human right is the ability to be oneself—a right that remains elusive for many within the autistic community.

In the video, "The Autistic Detective Dilemma (And How to Write Them Better)," viewers can gain deeper insights into the unique experiences of autistic individuals, particularly in narratives and representation.

The second video, "Temple Grandin: 'The Autistic Brain'," offers a profound perspective on the autistic experience, shedding light on the strengths and challenges faced by those on the spectrum.