Why Pose This Question?

The title stems from an overheard conversation that prompted me to think about self-perception and how it contrasts with how others see us. The dialogue unfolded between a couple—a man and a woman. The woman began sharing her workday experiences, particularly about a colleague she found irritating.

She described this person as overly negative and quick to gossip, forming judgments without truly understanding her colleagues. The man encouraged her to elaborate, and she candidly shared her thoughts. When asked how long the new colleague had been at the company, she replied, "about a week." I thought to myself, how could she so quickly judge someone when she had only given them one week to adapt? A newcomer often needs guidance and feedback, rather than being the subject of gossip.

The Double Standard

The conversation didn’t end there; she then proceeded to discuss an office "clown" and recounted his mistakes that day, laughing at his expense. We've all engaged in similar behavior because, after all, we are not without our imperfections. However, she was ironically exhibiting the very negativity she criticized in her colleague.

At the end of their exchange, the man affectionately told his partner, "I love you; you're perfect," followed by a kiss. While that was a sweet moment, she then proclaimed, "I’m perfect; no one is as perfect as I am." I couldn't help but chuckle at the irony, and I received a few sharp looks from the couple.

My Own Perspective

Sometimes, I view my wife as perfect in certain moments, yet I know that, like everyone, she has her flaws. I can also act perfectly at times, but the reality is that I am far from perfect. This brings me to a question for you: do you consider yourself perfect? If you do, why? If not, should we speak negatively about others? Why do we often contradict ourselves?

I may never change the world, but I can strive to support those around me and be a positive influence.

Are You Flawless?

If you don't have a friend who is negative or gossipy, take a moment to reflect—could it be you? Confidence is admirable, but arrogance is not a quality I appreciate. I always aim to see things from multiple perspectives. For instance, when someone forms a negative opinion of me, my wife instinctively defends me. I try to step back and ask myself, "Is their opinion valid?" Sometimes, it is, and rather than reacting defensively, I choose to reflect and learn from the experience.

Does this make me perfect? Absolutely not! But I strive for self-improvement and am willing to apologize when I err.

How Often Do You Apologize?

When was the last time you apologized? If you can’t remember, you might consider yourself perfect. If that's the case, I’d love to learn your secrets. Becoming an objective individual who can humbly acknowledge their mistakes is a challenging skill to develop, but it’s one that I’m proud to have cultivated over the years.

Are You Objective?

Are you able to view situations objectively? If so, I’d love to hear how you acquired that skill and any tips you can share with our readers. How long did it take you to become this way?