Avoid Complacency: Keep Your Spark Alive in Relationships
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Chapter 1: The Drive to Succeed
Many men are motivated by the desire to attract women. It's evident in the gym, where young men often work hard on their physiques for this very purpose. Some evolutionary psychologists even assert that our primary biological imperative is reproduction, and our behaviors tend to reflect that aim.
However, I've repeatedly noticed that once many men enter into a committed relationship, their motivation to improve often wanes. Initially, they hit the gym regularly, take pride in their appearance, and pursue their professional or academic ambitions. But once they have a girlfriend, their dedication starts to dwindle. I’ve witnessed this firsthand; several of my workout partners began to skip training sessions more frequently after entering relationships.
Suddenly, their drive, which once propelled them forward, begins to fade. They've reached their goal: they have a girlfriend.
Instead of maintaining their routines, they opt for movie marathons on the couch and indulge in snacks. Instead of studying or working on personal development, they spend hours on video calls with their partners.
Chapter 2: Complacency in Relationships
The shift in behavior that occurs when men get into committed relationships can be described as a descent into comfort and complacency. They become lazy, losing the ambitious, athletic, and socially vibrant persona that initially attracted their partners. Instead, they may become the version of themselves that prefers lounging on the couch, gaining weight, and neglecting both personal goals and friendships.
Unfortunately, love isn't always unconditional. If you become lackadaisical about your health and fitness, it’s only natural for your partner's attraction to diminish.
While a woman might express a desire for more attention—encouraging you to prioritize time with her over self-improvement—what she thinks she wants may not align with what genuinely attracts her. If she perceives that you’ve lost your direction, her respect can wane, and along with it, your attractiveness and motivation.
Many of my friends have faced this reality, and for some, it ultimately led to the end of their relationships.
It's essential to strike a balance. While it’s crucial to devote time to your partner, you should never cease working on yourself for her sake.
Chapter 3: Maintaining Your Identity
In summary, being in a relationship should not be a reason to halt your personal growth. This common pitfall has caused numerous relationships to falter. After all, you want to remain the person your partner fell in love with, if not an even better version of yourself.
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