Chapter 1: The Turning Point

In 2015, I found myself in a bleak situation where despair overwhelmed me. I was devoid of financial resources, companionship, and optimism. However, a peculiar thought emerged in my mind.

“What if I were to pass away today and, upon entering the next realm, an angel showed me a cinematic portrayal of the life I was meant to live but didn’t due to my lack of effort? What if my current struggles are merely a segment of a larger story where I eventually triumph? Could it be that the journey to success is fraught with hardship, and all the suffering I’ve endured is a prerequisite for my transformation?”

With that realization, I resolved to take charge of my own narrative. I mean it sincerely. I implemented two crucial changes in my life. First, I ceased attributing blame to others for my circumstances. Second, I began each day by standing before the mirror and reciting an empowering mantra.

Inspired by Marcus Aurelius, I modified my morning affirmation. I declared, “Today, if negativity approaches, I will respond, ‘Sorry, I’m too busy.’ If someone attempts to engage me in conflict or drain my energy, I will assert, ‘Sorry, I’m too busy.’ If I receive unsolicited calls or messages that disrupt my focus, I will firmly state, ‘Sorry, I’m too busy.’”

This practice has remained a part of my daily routine because I am the protagonist of my life story. And you can be too.

If you find yourself in a predicament similar to mine in 2015, where life feels suffocating and the world seems unjust, take this unglamorous advice: channel your inner father figure. Embrace this powerful life hack: embody the person you aspire to be.

Consider this: your father figure, whether real or imagined, possesses wisdom and experience that surpasses your own. Visualize that individual guiding you in your thoughts. Envision them as the role model you wish to emulate.

Why adopt this approach? Because if anyone can reassure you that “everything will turn out fine,” it’s that person.

I understand it may sound unconventional, but I’m not alone in this practice. Matthew McConaughey, during the Oscars in 2014, shared a similar sentiment: “When I was 15, someone asked me, ‘Who is your hero?’ I replied, ‘It’s me ten years from now.’ This became my guiding principle, and it continues to motivate me daily.”

You too can join this journey. Start pursuing your future self right now. If you make the effort, life will improve. Establish a connection with that hero, that paternal figure, or your envisioned self, and engage with them regularly.

It may seem ludicrous, but consider your reality: you’re often alone. However, by interacting with your future self and adopting their mindset, you will cultivate companionship. You will no longer feel isolated.

For this partnership to flourish, your future self must see your desire for change. As Ryan Holiday aptly put it, “To excel, you must possess an intrinsic drive. You won’t achieve greatness simply because someone else wants it for you; you must want it more than they do.”

So, here’s the pivotal question: How fervently do you desire transformation?

A.G.

Section 1.1: Embracing Change

Change often begins with the smallest shifts in perspective. By recognizing the power of your thoughts and actions, you can influence your path towards a better future.

Chapter 2: The Unsexy Truths of Life

The first video titled "Want Change? Do the Unsexy Things" delves into the often overlooked yet essential actions that lead to significant life changes. It emphasizes that true transformation often requires embracing tasks that may seem mundane or unappealing but are necessary for growth.

The second video, "Lessons I Learned From MY BREAKUP!!," shares invaluable insights from personal experiences. It highlights how challenges can serve as catalysts for self-discovery and improvement.